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MOMENT ❤️ this is a flashback to 4 and a bit years ago. A friend bought me a sketch pad when Maurice was born, as I’d been bemoaning the loss of my artistic side and she sweetly wanted to give me a kickstart to awaken it. Obvs having a fretful sleepless baby gave me loads of time to draw to my heart's content 🙄😂😬 #allthematernityleaveplans ... so I found it in a drawer unwrapped for over 3 years and opened it, sharpened a pencil, and one morning Freddie miraculously slept for a whole 15 mins (and not on me for a change!) so in that time I spontaneously grabbed a pencil to get my long-forgotten artist’s eye in once more. And no, I basically haven’t touched a drawing pad again since 🙄. . Becoming a mum sometimes feels like you lose part of yourself - while obviously giving you plenty in return ❤️ - but maybe all it takes is a tiny window of opportunity and you can meet your old self for a cup of tea. What could you do today that reconnects you to YOU. What do you love? Have you given yourself space to even consider that recently? What gives you joy, flow, peace? . . #motherhood #identity #mother #artist #mumlife #freddieat10weeks #hewokeupafter15minutes #pregnancy #birth #findingmamamojo #selfcare #mindfulness #capturingthemoments #ordinarylovely #everydayjoy #pnd #postnataldepletion

Feel 🧡 as modern humans in a capitalist society we’re definitely missold the reality of “happiness”. It’s not realistic or particularly emotionally healthy to be “happy” constantly. Particularly if the source of your happiness is a “thing” external from your spirit. . . It’s ok to feel ALL the feels. Emotions are like weather: we need all aspects of the climate, in balance. When you feel your storm clouds take over: yes that’s when you need support to manage and understand, you need to create an umbrella of emotional resilience to weather the storm. But it’s ok and natural to react to circumstance, learn through circumstance with “negative” feelings. They are just feelings. If we unhook the value judgement on them, it would make us much “happier”. . . When my first was a newborn, I had a traumatic birth, a painful recovery, a struggle with breastfeeding a similarly traumatised newborn who slept for 20 minutes at a time. It would’ve been, frankly, weird if I were able to be totally joyous under these circumstances. But I felt guilt and shame at “not coping” - when actually I was coping absolutely brilliantly with what life had thrown at me. It’s ok to feel. Seek support if the weather has taken over and you need shelter. . . Image found via @thedailyanxieties . . #trusttheprocess #thesupermummyth #goodenoughmother #mbct #emotionalresilience #emotionalagility #postnataldepletion #postnataldepression

I found this on Facebook a couple of years ago, I don’t know the illustrator (so if you do please tag) and it made me laugh out loud. . I hope this wasn’t triggering if you didn’t or aren’t breastfeeding your baby... I feel it sums up more than just breastfeeding: Often we just have no idea how much we’re nourishing our child - whether that’s in boobs, in love, in cognitive development. All of the time we’re doing our absolute best and the fact that you even question yourself shows that you are the best mum ever. . . You’re doing an amazing job ❤️. You ARE ENOUGH . #motherhoodthroughinstagram #motherhoodrising #thesupermummyth #goodenoughmother #matrescence #fourthtrimester #youareenough

On the way to the train station after work last night I was peeking into the lit windows of the flats along the canal. I saw a woman with a baby draped over her shoulder, patting baby’s back and doing the baby jig, no doubt muttering “it’s ok it’s ok it’s ok”. I thought how alone she might feel, how exhausted she might be, how full of love but fatigued, how doubtful her mind may be about how well she was doing. . . You’re not alone ❤️ you’re doing an amazing job. It’s ok it’s ok it’s ok. ❤️. How are you tonight? Thank you @common_wild . #postnataldepletion #postnataldepression #yourenotalone #fourthtrimester #matrescence #goodenoughmother #tesupermummyth #lonelyyetneveralone #motherhoodrising . #postnataldepletion #pnd #fourthtrimester

BOUNCE BACK ⚡️ How many times do we hear about getting “back into pre-baby jeans” after baby? Our focus is so much on the aesthetic when actually how you FEEL inside tells the more powerful story. This picture 👆🏼is a picture of my mojo coming back, strength emerging like the sunrise over the horizon⚡️. But I still don’t fit into some of my pre-baby clothes, not even close. And if I judge myself on Daily Mail standards of hotness it makes me feel low. But then, I know that I am STRONG. Which is the more important, do you think? . Dame Sally Davies, England’s chief medical officer, revealed that she still struggles with incontinence 20 years after having her children. . Postnatal depression and postnatal physical depletion are arguably inextricable. And the “bounce back” is inevitably related to your mojo reigniting - or not, like a car wheezily trying to start in the snow ❄️. Exercise - MOVEMENT - is so crucial to health, vitality and wellbeing. . . But it has to be the right exercise at the right pace. Not HIIT or running too soon, if your body isn’t quite ready. We need to keep talking about mental health, smash the stigma. And this extends to incontinence, pelvic floor dysfunction, the “Mum Tum” diastasis recti and implications for your functional pain-free movement for the REST oF YOUR LIFE. This is so important ❤️. You deserve to have a life that’s free from embarrassment, shame and pain, not put up with these things just because you’re a mum. . It’s never too late -however many years postnatal you are. You only get one life. It’s not selfish to prioritise your health and wellbeing, it’ll help you to be a happier mum. . . #motherhood #perinatalanxiety #pnd #maternalmentalhealth #mother #honestmotherhood #postnataldepression #selfcare #pelvicfloor #diastasisrecti #thesupermummyth #fitness #fitmum #yoga #pilates #birth #motherhoodrising #perinatalmentalhealth

Reconnect to you 🧡 when you’re transitioning to being mum, suddenly caring for your heart beating outside your body, often you forget about the heart inside. You physically forget or are unable to meet the most basic needs and comforts: drink enough water, go to the loo when you need to, eat at the right times/nourishing food. . . 80-90% of serotonin, the transmitter for joy and feelings of wellbeing, is produced in your gut. So it’s no wonder after birth that we feel lacklustre when we forget that we need to be nourished from the cells out. Rather society is more concerned about the outside first, fitting into pre-pregnancy jeans being a marker of value. . . What can you do today to truly nourish your mind, body, spirit? Pelvic floor? Self care isn’t wishy washy pampering. Self care is holding your future self close within your heart and wondering how you want HER to feel. . . How are you today? You’re doing an amazing job you know 🧡. . #matrescence #fourthtrimester #selfcareformums #thesupermummyth #motherhoodrising #buddhismformothers #youareenough #youmatter #goodenoughmother

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